I am mother of four and one thing that really helped me was assigning each of my kids, my husband and myself a color. Our favorite color. And I used the colors to color code my calendar. Beginning of each week I would check to see who had what and how many events I needed to be a part of. As my children got older, it was easier because they could drive themselves, so I would start my week checking the colors of the kids who couldn't drive. That was my clue I needed to be involved. It made it easier to plan my week. My children are all grown and now my calendar is filled with the favorite colors of our grandchildren.